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Both spouses are permitted
to see each other in the nude. Both are also entitled to enjoy one another
to the utmost. Mu'awiyah (may Allah be pleased with him) asked Allah's
Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), which reads as
follows:“ Oh Messenger of Allah! To what extent should we protect [cover]
our private parts? Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon
him) is reported to have replied: Protect [cover] your private parts
[fully] except from your spouse or those whom your right hand possess”
[46].
Both spouses are entitled
to enjoy each other fully in terms of sexual intercourse in any position,
if the husband approaches his wife in the proper place, i.e., where a baby
is delivered. Tirmithi reported that Omar (may Allah be pleased with him)
came to Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and
declared, which reads as follows:“ Oh Messenger of Allah! I've destroyed
myself! Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) asked:
What cause you to say this? Omar (may Allah be pleased with him) replied:
I've changed the method of my intercourse tonight. [i.e., he approached his
wife from the back, but in the proper place]. Allah's Messenger (peace and
blessings of Allah be upon him) did not comment on the issue [as he doesn't
have any jurisdiction to say]. Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) revealed to
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) , on the spot,
the following verse in Sura al-Baqarah (2:223): Your wives are as a tilth
unto you: so approach your tilth when or how you will; but do some good act
for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah, and know that ye are to meet Him
[in the Hereafter], and give [these] good tidings to those who believe”
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is
reported to have said, at this point, which reads as follows:“ You may
approach her from the front, or from the back, provided that you avoid the
anis and while the wife is in menses” [47].
This Hadith, however, means that a husband must avoid doing anything
with his wife while she is in menstruation period. Aeshah (may Allah be
pleased with him) reported that:“ While I was in menstruation, I would
drink from a cup, then Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be
upon him) would take the cup, place his lips in the same place of mine on
the cup, and drink. I would also take a piece of meat on the bone; bite of
it, then put it down. Then, Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) would take the same piece and eat from it, placing his lips in
the same place of mine” [48].
Similarly, a husband and wife may enjoy each other, while in
menstruation, if they avoid the actual intercourse. Allah's Messenger
(peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said, which
reads as follows:“ You may do anything [with each other as a husband and
wife, while in menstruation] except of actual intercourse” [49].
Jaber (may Allah be pleased with him) is reported to have said,
which reads as follows:“ Jews used to believe that if a husband approaches
his wife from the back, in the proper place, the born child would be
cross-eyed. Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) revealed, the following verse in
Sura al-Baqarah (2:223): Your wives are as a tilth unto you: so approach
your tilth when or how you will; but do some good act for your souls
beforehand; and fear Allah, and know that ye are to meet Him [in the
Hereafter], and give [these] good tidings to those who believe” [50].
It is Sunnah to utter the
name of Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) before approaching one's wife sexually.
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to
have said, which reads as follows:“ If a husband, before he approaches his
wife sexually, supplicates as follows: Oh Allah! Protect us from Satan, and
make him away from us. If the two spouses get a child as a result of this
sexual intercourse, Satan would not be able to harm the child” [51].
The husband must play with
his wife, talk to her nicely, and kiss her in order to arouse her sexually.
In addition, a husband must wait for his wife to satisfy her sexual desire.
Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to
have said, which reads as follows:“ If a husband has an intercourse with
his wife he must be truthful with her. If he got sexually satisfied before
she does, then he should wait for her to get her satisfaction” [52].
In addition, Omar bin AbdulAziz (may Allah be pleased with him) is
reported to have narrated the following Hadith of Allah's Messenger (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him), which reads as follows:“ Don't
approach your wife sexually and have intercourse with her right away. You
should wait until she is as sexually aroused as you are. The man asked: Oh
Messenger of Allah! What should I do [in order to achieve that?] He (peace
and blessings of Allah be upon him) replied: Kiss her, touch her, and try
to arouse her. If you notice that is she is as ready sexually as you are,
then perform the intercourse” [53].
In addition, it is also an
act of Sunnah to perform a complete ablution by taking a full bath, or a
partial ablution, as one does to offer a prayer, if the husband desires to
have another intercourse with her. Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings
of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said, which reads as follows:“ If
a husband has an intercourse with his wife once, and wanted to repeat it
again, let him perform an ablution” [54].
This good practice is
purer, more hygienic and enables the person to have a stronger sexual
strength and desire.
[46] Abu Daoud and Tirmithi reported
this Hadith.
[47] Tirmithi reported this Hadith.
[48] Muslim reported this Hadith.
[49] All the reporters of Hadith except
for Muslim reported this Hadith.
[50] Bukhari and Muslim reported this
Hadith.
[51] Bukhari reported this Hadith.
[52] Abu Ya'la reported this Hadith.
[53] Al-Moghni, Vol.8, P.137.
[54] Muslim reported this Hadith.
From
Book: Islamic Perspective of Sex
By
Abdurrahman Al-Sheha.
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